Ian and Sue Wallace Counselling

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Let us help you have the life you want

not the one other people think you should have


Face to face appointments have had to be cancelled again

Our phone or internet connections are based on 45 minute sessions at a cost of £40 and are now paid for in advance by either debit or credit card.
We thank all our current Client's for being so understanding in these unprecedented times and look forward to seeing future Client's knowing that we are trying to make your sessions and worlds as safe as we can.
Take care and keep safe.


My Autumn schedule of training for Therapists is now out.

If your looking to extend your counselling knowledge and would like to access quality accredited training then please contact me or look at my training web site www.iwtc.org.uk. Courses include Couple's training, Systemic understanding and interventions, Abuse and many more.


In light of the situation of Corona Virus Zoom Consultations are available online or via Phone

If you are self isolating and would like help and support then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Zoom, a more secure form of Skype, or on a land line telephone, for a discounted fee of £40 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use a computer or the phone then please give him a call.


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New book available on Amazon and Kindle

My new book, Insecurity its all about me, is now available to buy on Amazon and on Kindle.
This book helps you to understand the complexities and enabling ways to work with insecurity in our lives and our Clients lives. It focusses on helpful ways to work with and explore our insecurities giving you a understanding of how insecurity impacts on our lives. What behavioural patterns then emerge from our natural insecure drive.
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A small investment for years of happiness.


More ways to improve your life and your relationship

Visit my other site Seeking Change to find more tools and ways to have a healthy life and relationship.


About Us

Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 20 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield, Dewsbury and I also offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.

We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling Wakefield will help you to find a way forward.

If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian


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Contact us

Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

For relate Wakefield, Dewsbury and WF postcodes services please contact only Ian.

We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.

Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.


If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle


Opening hours

Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.


What issues and organisations we work with

We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, EMDR, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.

Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Pinnacle

We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers across the Wakefield, Dewsbury and WF postcodes.


Where are we based

We have our counselling practices just off Denby Dale Rd, just outside Wakefield city centre and is close to the M1 junction 39 also bus terminus's, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes. our offices
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: Mobile for Ian 0776 9976620 or Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

Ian and Su Wallace




We are registered with the following appropriate organisations.




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Can I be me or do I have to be you

Society says that it champions the individual and that you can make it. We applaud people who achieve greatness hurdling the obstacles to be the best that they can be. We give accolades and rewards to the great people, museums and art galleries are full of them.
Thoughts that I ponder is it that the achievements they make rising up and gaining those accolades reaching a certain point and then is there a tipping point of group jealousy feelings and emotions that the masses then need to bring them down so that society can feel safe again, have they risen so high that we, society, feel insecure and that the hope they delivered for all of us in being able to rise up becomes unbalanced and they have to be brought back down to the same level as us again.
Does this driving force of individuality in us become too insecure for the societal group they belonged to, does that group cohesion feel threatened that people can escape so that they need to bring them back down to the group level to be the same or similar to the mass group identity.
“Can I be me or do I have to be you”


Lying or making things up

When people seem to be lying they are not always doing so through a process of awareness of what they are doing but it may just be a sub-conscious reaction to a behavioural norm. What I mean is that if they have grown up in an environment where they have felt criticised or challenged of their ideas or reality then they might resort to making things up to what they think the person they are engaging in conversation with wants to hear.
This defensive reaction may well be seen as lying where in fact they are usually making things up in order to deflect possible criticism from the other person, this is usually so instinctive that they may well not realise initially what they have done until they have voiced the made up reality and they have then had the reaction from the other person, this will usually incur questioning of the lie, as they see it, which the other person may then may perceive as an interrogation of themselves, thus re-enforcing the critical feeling and thus making more things up in order to cover up the first thing they made up or arguing their point even further.
Usually then both parties will be frustrated, the person making the things up, due to guilt feelings and the other person because the feel insecure in not having the information they need or the reality they need to know. This can be a very destructive process but if each person can change the person making things able to give some space before they answer the question so being able to think and construct a positive communication that is the reality. The other person understanding why their partner engages that way and changing their own communication process so as to not use critical language which forces a defensive reaction.
This will enable both parties to communicate with a positive process a win win result, which always is the best solution.





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Ian Wallace Relate Counsellor in Wakefield


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