Ian and Sue Wallace Counselling

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About Us

Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 20 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield and offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.

We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling Wakefield will help you to find a way forward.

If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian

Zoom Consultation

If you don’t reside in the Wakefield, Dewsbury or local area then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Zoom, a more secure form of Skype, or on a land line telephone, for a reduced fee of £40 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use a computer or the phone then please give him a call.

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Contact us

Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

For relate Wakefield services please contact only Ian.

We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.

Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.

If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle

Opening hours

Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.

What issues and organisations we work with

We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, EMDR, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.

Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Pinnacle

We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.

Where are we based

We have our counselling practices on Ings Rd, just outside Wakefield city centre and close to train and bus terminus's, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: Mobile for Ian 0776 9976620 or Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

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We are registered with the following appropriate organisations.

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Phones for you but they alienate everyone else

I have been observing people over the last few years, as mobile phones have become more prominent and accepted as a way of life. They permeate all of our aspects of life, everything we do has an app and a programme to help us achieve it, they follow us report on us and have a major effect on how we communicate and interact in our lives with other people around us. I watch amazed at how focussed we are with them, engrossed in their blips, buzzes and ringtones. Reacting with great speed to them as they interact and interrupt our lives, the phone being more important than the people we are with or even the things we are doing. I see people at dinner tables using reading and exploring the world with the phone, even though they might be with a group of people, they are immersed into this insular electronic phone world, fully focussed on the ever increasing sized screens.
It strikes me that as I work with ever increasing people having difficulty in communicating and socialising that this may be down to this “phone for you” dysfunctions, ever evading intrusion into our world. It’s a well-known fact now that babies need a parent’s eye contact and if they don’t get it then it does impede their developmental mental process. The eye contact between the parent and the child releases chemicals which engage with our development in a heathy way without this visual interaction it impedes that chemical process and as an aspect of this our mental development.
I have a theory that if we have relationships with an electronic interfaces then that indeed may affect our socialising development, we quite literally find it hard to talk to a person. Electronic interfaces have a hard time transferring emotions between ourselves and whoever or whatever we are communication with, how frustrating is it when you call a call centre and the last thing you get connected to is a person, lots of electronic interface prior to or instead of a human one, asking questions, inputting information to an electronic interface but not engaging with a human. We then can’t understand how to engage with another human, in order to create friendships or relationships, we can find the right words or actions for this human interface, we stumble through this process and then revert back to our little phone comfort fix, it doesn’t ask us awkward questions or ask us to explain ourselves, it just gives us facts, or not, shortens the interactions with emotional faces so we don’t have to type it in or think too much ab out what we want to say. A new experience at the dinner table, I have seen, is that everyone puts there phone in a basket at the end of the table and no one answers them or interacts with them, what a refreshing process that could be if we all did this.
So in conclusion a phone does not always help you, it can alienate you and restrict your interactions within the world. Free yourself from it for a number of hours a day and talk and express yourself with another human being in those hours, before it’s too late. Friends are people you know and spend time in each other’s real company, not through an electronic device they are acquaintances.
Don’t get the two mixed up.

“Have the life you want not the one other people think you should have”


Ian Wallace Relate Counsellor in Wakefield

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