Ian and Sue Wallace Counselling

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Let us help you have the life you want

not the one other people think you should have


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This book helps you to understand the complexities and enabling ways to work with insecurity in our lives and our Clients lives. It focusses on helpful ways to work with and explore our insecurities giving you a understanding of how insecurity impacts on our lives. What behavioural patterns then emerge from our natural insecure drive.
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About Us

Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 12 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield and offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.

We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling Wakefield will help you to find a way forward.

If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian


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Zoom Consultation

If you don’t reside in the Wakefield, Dewsbury or local area then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Zoom, a more secure form of Skype, or on a land line telephone, for a reduced fee of £40 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use a computer or the phone then please give him a call.


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Contact us

Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

For relate Wakefield services please contact only Ian.

We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.

Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.


If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle


Opening hours

Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.


What issues and organisations we work with

We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.

Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Pinnacle

We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.


Where are we based

We have our counselling practices on Ings Rd, just outside Wakefield city centre and close to train and bus terminus's, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: Mobile for Ian 0776 9976620 or Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

Ian and Su Wallace




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There's only 3 options with any question

I work with a lot of Clients who find it hard to make choices, usually due to an upbringing of being given a critical choice voice either explicitly or implicitly. In order for the Client to be able to make choices then I have to explore why they feel unable to make choices, this sounds common sense, but if your reality is that you don't have a voice then to have one challenges not only the historical voice giver but also the world you live in and how you interact with that world, this can be very scary for the individual, suddenly your living on Mars in some way it’s completely alien.

I rarely find they are unable to make choices in all aspects of their life so the first part of the work is to find the areas they can’t make choices in. These areas will normally have some kind of emotional connection to them, for example they might be able to make choices in a work arena around change but not in their personal relationships around change. Once we have discovered the emotional link then we can work on that area of their life and can leave the others areas of their life alone for now. In order to make a competent informed choice we all have to make the choice separate from and isolates it from an emotional reaction. Once we do this it will still be hard to make a choice but in order to make that easier than a tool is to look at the thing they don't want from the choice then flip it 180 degrees as that is what they will want. An example would be if say someone didn't know what choice to make for say what career they wanted so we break it down to its individual component parts. Looking at each component part and asking, what don't I want 180 degrees into then the opposite is what they do want to do? It’s usually easier for humans to look at the negative aspect of things, it’s more comfortable, then the positive aspect so focusing on the negative to achieve the positive seems more achievable.

The 3 options with any decision we make are:

1 Things stay the same we don't change anything.

2 Things change through all parties agreeing the change and taking their own individual responsibility as to why things don't or can’t work.

3 Detach and walk away.

There aren't any other options or are there?

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Ian Wallace Relate Counsellor in Wakefield


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