Ian and Sue Wallace Counselling

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Let us help you have the life you want

not the one other people think you should have


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New book available on Amazon and Kindle

My new book, Insecurity its all about me, is now available to buy on Amazon and on Kindle.
This book helps you to understand the complexities and enabling ways to work with insecurity in our lives and our Clients lives. It focusses on helpful ways to work with and explore our insecurities giving you a understanding of how insecurity impacts on our lives. What behavioural patterns then emerge from our natural insecure drive.
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Visit my other site Seeking Change to find more tools and ways to have a healthy life and relationship.


About Us

Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 12 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield and offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.

We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling will help you find a way forward.

If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian


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Skype Consultation

If you don’t reside in the Wakefield, Dewsbury or local area then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Skype or on a land line telephone, for a reduced fee of £35 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use Skype or the phone then please give him a call.


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Contact us

Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

For relate Wakefield services please contact only Ian.

We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.

Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.


If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle


Opening hours

Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.


What issues and organisations we work with

We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.

Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Intuitive Therapy

We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.


Where are we based

We have our counselling practices on Bond St, just outside Wakefield city centre and close to train and bus terminuses, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: Mobile for Ian 0776 9976620 or Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)

Ian and Su Wallace




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Abuse the final staw

Over the years I’ve worked with many abused people both Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Financially and sexually, in fact in my world the term abuse applies to anyone who feels they have no choice in any situation which denies them their human rights which is detrimental to their mental, emotional, financial, sexual or physical health and well-being.
When people feel they have to report or make people aware of their abusive situation it’s usually not the first time it has happened they have usually kept it to themselves for a long period of time. It normally exists within a manipulative process of a relationship, as manipulation is an abusive process, the manipulated person is made to suffer or do something they do not want to or need to do. The abused person has sometimes tried to seek help which has not been recognised as abusive by the person they reported it too or that the person they reported it too did not want to take any responsibility for any action they would need to take in regard to safeguarding the abused person or people.
Sometimes we don’t ask the questions as we don’t want to deal with the answers we get.
When people report or signal abuse to us we need to take action as in not taking action just abuses the person even further, by signalling to them we condone it by not taking action on the information given, the signalling may be given to us by body language, behaviour or voice. If anyone’s behaviour is seen to be extremely different from what we would normally expect from them then they may be suffering abuse, sometimes the abuse in a single episode can look like nothing to us, say a partner is just paying for the persons drink in a café, but if that is because the person has never been allowed any money then it may individually look to us like a caring act but it may mask a financially controlling abusive behaviour, as they can never buy anything for themselves by not being allowed any money. One occurrence may not make us suspicious, and indeed we should not see every caring act as suspicious or abusive, but if every time we meet them the same thing applies then by saying an inquisitive question, which does not directly challenge the situation, maybe saying ohh can you change a £5 for me, would help to identify whether the person indeed had any money on them.
Never challenge an abusive act directly, when the abuser is present, as that may put the abused person in a situation which results in more abuse being inflicted on them or others in the family. Make a mental note of what you have seen and then challenge it when the abuser is not around and take note of the reaction of the abused person. Abused people will always see themselves as the problem, they will always minimise the abuse and sometimes even support the abuser, if they have become accustomed to abuse as a normal part of a relationship, “They only hit me on a Friday” Don’t get angry if the abused person will not take action at that time the normal reporting cycle is that people try on average at least 18 times to report abuse before they finally are able to do so. Support them and offer them help when they need it. maybe giving them details of any local organisations that could help them.

“Have the life you want not the one other people think you should have”

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Ian Wallace Relate Counsellor in Wakefield


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