Most people, at some time in their lives...
... need help to understand and change the way they feel, think and act, to move forward.
New book available on Amazon and Kindle
My new book is now available to buy on Amazon and on Kindle. It will help you to have a better life by being aware of why things go wrong so you can change, alter and adapt your interactions to have the life you want not the one other people think you should have.
A reviewers comment
Love the tools , light bulb moments and things to think about sections that create a pause and help whatever idea to sink in as well as the diagrams explaining some of the processes people go through. Altogether a very useful addition for anybody who is in the process of trying to work themselves or how they have come to fit in the world as they do out.
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A small investment for years of happiness.
Hi my name is Ian and myself and my associates are fully qualified Counsellors, Trainers and Therapists. I also deliver the Relate Wakefield Counselling for all WF postcodes. we have together over 8500 face to face hours of practical experience. We work with all areas of life’s conflicts and issues. If you feel lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 or 01924 385820 (Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)
We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with a Relate trained Counsellor who is experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples.
We and our recommended Associates also offer Family Counselling, Sex Therapy, Addiction therapy,CBT Programmes. In addition Ian also offers Supervision and business and personal coaching all of which are from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or via skype.
Please visit our Qualifications page (see the link on the left) for details about our experience and credentials. If you are concerned about confidentiality or costs, you can find more information in our FAQ page.
If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian
I do also work with Clients either by Skype or on a land line phone for a reduced fee of £35 for 45 minutes if you feel more comfortable not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use Skype then please give me a call.
Our specialist areas of work
Ian delivers the Wakefield Relate Counselling service, covering Wakefield, Dewsbury, the surrounding districts, and all other WF Postcodes. I specialise counselling with Couples, Individuals or any families were the members are over 12 years of age. Ian works on daytime and evenings Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday.
Ian offers counselling supervision for trained Counsellors using his extensive knowledge and experience there is very few areas of counselling issues he will not have dealt with over his 15 years of practice. His expertise is being able to produce clarity from complex issues or interactions between humans.
Ian also specialises in helping people and organisations to attain their goals and change processes working with individuals, local authorities and national organisations. If your looking for a specialist business coach then please feel free to have a free 30 minute consultation to discuss your needs and what I would be able to achieve for you.
Sue specialises in Counselling and Cognitive Hypno-Therapy, working with Individuals who have life limiting behavioural problems helping them to understand their world and to move forward, she is also an integrative, Relate trained Counsellor working with individuals and couples. Sue works on daytime and evening Thursdays and Saturdays.
Martin Specialises in Sex Therapy, or PST as it is sometimes called, and also CBT programmes.
Mary works from an Integrative and relational base using Psycho-dynamic/Systemic therapy approaches with Attachment/Narrative therapy. Solution Focused Brief Therapy/Coaching. Mindfulness in Counselling and has practised for over 14 years. Mary is available for appointments on Friday daytime and evenings.
Steve is a qualified Counsellor, sex addiction therapist and coach. Steve undertook the ATSAC Professional Certificate in Sexual Addiction Treatment run by Paula Hall and specialises with any addictions from Gambling to sexual activity such as pornography, masturbation, multiple affairs, using paid sex workers, cyber sex, fetishes and sexual offending. Steve helps addicts to understand the roots of their addiction and supports them in overcoming dependency, making changes and adopting a healthier lifestyle.
Steve is available for appointments in Wakefield on Thursdays daytime and evening.
More details can be found at Esteem Therapy
We are all members of BACP or another professional regulatory uk body.
We can see people either face to face in our offices or sometimes if appropriate over the Telephone, this is especially helpful for people who cant reach us either through distance problems or inability to travel.
If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please see pinnacle team 1
Our hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment.
What issues and organisations we work with
We help people with issues around Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Addictions and Gender Identity.
I also train people to understanding why life goes wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course can be found at Intuitive Therapy
We do and have also work with the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.
Where are we based
We have our counselling practices at 20 Bond St, just outside Wakefield city centre, all easily reached from Dewsbury, Ossett, and outlining WF postcodes. We are also close to the main train and bus stations to access our services from further afield like Leeds and Huddersfield. We hold our training courses in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like us to.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: 01924 385820
or Ian 0776 9976620 / Su 0776 9976626
Ian and Su Wallace
Working with Clients who have controlling behaviour patterns
When working with clients who have the above but would like to change, then its a good idea to see where these controlling behaviours originate from, what scripts or influences they derived from. In working with Clients I have found that the way they talk can change the interaction with the people they are seemingly controlling, I day seemingly as the controller will often see it as caring not controlling. I ask the controller to look at their communication style and change a couple of things within it firstly
Use offerings not statements
When talking to others then ask using offerings don't tell using statements and example of this would be saying “Would you like a drink” instead of “Your having a drink or you need a drink”.
Use ownership of your expressions do not externalise it on to others and example of this would be I am feeling insecure, not I am feeling insecure because you do that.
Following these basic rules of communication interactions can help people to be different and allow the dialogue and relationship between them to be respectful and connected.