New book available on Amazon and Kindle
My new book is now available to buy on Amazon and on Kindle. It will help you to have a better life by being aware of why things go wrong so you can change, alter and adapt your interactions to have the life you want not the one other people think you should have. As an experienced Counsellor providing many years of counselling and therapy covering all aspects of life's difficulties from relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, mental health and helping people seeking change.
A reviewers comment
Love the tools , light bulb moments and things to think about sections that create a pause and help whatever idea to sink in as well as the diagrams explaining some of the processes people go through. Altogether a very useful addition for anybody who is in the process of trying to work themselves or how they have come to fit in the world as they do out.
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Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 12 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield and offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.
We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling will help you find a way forward.
If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian
If you don’t reside in the Wakefield, Dewsbury or local area then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Skype or on a land line telephone, for a reduced fee of £35 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use Skype or the phone then please give him a call.
Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)
For relate Wakefield services please contact only Ian.
We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.
Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.
If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle
Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.
What issues and organisations we work with
We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.
Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Intuitive Therapy
We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.
Where are we based
We have our counselling practices on Bond St, just outside Wakefield city centre and close to train and bus terminuses, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: Mobile for Ian 0776 9976620 or Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)
Ian and Su Wallace
We are registered with the following appropriate organisations.
The grass is greener-is it really?
We often hear this term and phrase said to connect with why we leave one situation to connect with another but is it really the case.
When we move from one relationship, career or situation to another we look at the things we are not getting or receiving from that left process, we see the negatives, that our needs are not fully being met. So in exploring where we can receive those needs that are not being met we look outside our current connections and in doing so try to get those unfilled needs met by another party. As an example in a relationship if we feel that our need to be heard is not being met by our primary partner then we explore a fuller being heard communication process with other people, who might be in our social circle or at work etc. In doing so we hopefully find someone who can listen and fully hear us, as we possible do them, this usually builds an emotional relationship which is outside of our current primary relationship partner. Then we are having those unfulfilled needs met which might be 15% of all the needs we have so it looks to us that the “Grass is greener on the other side” but in getting those needs met we usually don’t look at the other needs that we have which are being provided by our current primary partner.
This then provides a false view of our overall situation, humans are usually motivated by greed we want everything or more than we currently have, which distorts the reality of our situation as we are having possibly 80% of needs met by our current relationship partner, we never usually have 100% of our needs met by anyone. In connecting to get that 15% we jeopardise the 80%, as most primary relationships work from a specific couple aspect, so if more people connect to the primary relationship partners then most couples would feel this was an infringement on their primary relationship and would want to marginalise or expel that person from the dyadic relationship.
So hence in this example we get 15% and lose 80% so is the grass greener. In my professional opinion it is always more helpful if they as a couple communicate together the needs that are currently not being met and see if those needs can be attained in the primary relationship prior to seeking an external person to supply them. In this way you get 95% of you needs being met. Always a more healthy and connected process for a happier future.
Ian Wallace Relate Counsellor in Wakefield