New book available on Amazon and Kindle
My new book is now available to buy on Amazon and on Kindle. It will help you to have a better life by being aware of why things go wrong so you can change, alter and adapt your interactions to have the life you want not the one other people think you should have. As an experienced Counsellor providing many years of counselling and therapy covering all aspects of life's difficulties from relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, mental health and helping people seeking change.
A reviewers comment
Love the tools , light bulb moments and things to think about sections that create a pause and help whatever idea to sink in as well as the diagrams explaining some of the processes people go through. Altogether a very useful addition for anybody who is in the process of trying to work themselves or how they have come to fit in the world as they do out.
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Hi my name is Ian and I started Counselling Wakefield over 12 years ago. I and my professional associates work at Counselling Wakefield. We are fully qualified to deliver the Counselling, Supervision and the other therapies we offer. I am also the Counsellor for Relate Wakefield and offer counselling services for all WF postcodes, although the Relate Wakefield is a paid for service.
We all have many years of extensive practical experience counselling Client’s. We work with all the areas of life’s conflicts and issues, from helping with your relationships, bereavement, self-esteem, sexual issues and mental health, which may be affecting you. If you feel you are seeking change and seem lost, stuck, or with no one to turn to? Then counselling will help you find a way forward.
If you would like more updates and information then why not drop by my Facebook page and if you like it then please say so. Many thanks Ian
If you don’t reside in the Wakefield, Dewsbury or local area then Ian offers counselling with Clients either by Skype or on a land line telephone, for a reduced fee of £35 for 45 minutes, if you feel more comfortable to access your therapy in this way and not meeting face to face or cannot travel to access our services and can use Skype or the phone then please give him a call.
Please call Ian on 0776 9976620 Su on 0776 9976626 or 01924 385820 to discuss your individual needs so we can offer the most appropriate counselling or therapy support and help for your individual situation(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)
For relate Wakefield services please contact only Ian.
We will arrange a suitable appointment time, with no commitment, to confidentially discuss your needs with Relate trained Counsellors who are experienced in working with Families, CYP Individuals and Couples or our other specialists who work with sexual addictions, PST (psycho sexual therapy) CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy) or severe mental health issues.
Our hand-picked professional Counsellor / Associates can also offer Supervision, business and personal coaching all of which are offered from our Wakefield Premises, although for business coaching visits to company offices can be arranged or can be conducted via skype.
If you would like to access our Coaching or training services for personal, life and business development then please visit Pinnacle
Our Wakefield hours of opening are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 9.30 till 9pm. As appointment availability can change hourly it is best to phone us to check our availability and to book an appointment with a Counsellor.
What issues and organisations we work with
We help people with counselling around Couple conflict, Relationships both personal and work, Self Esteem, Confidence Building, Bereavement, Emotional Conflict, Sexual Addictions, Family therapy and Gender Identity, in fact anyone seeking change in their life.
Ian also is a qualified teacher and trains people in understanding why their life can go wrong and what to do to make it right. The information for these course for individuals, parents, couples and groups can be found at Intuitive Therapy. I hold my training courses locally and in other areas or even at your own venue if you would like me to. The information for these course can be found at Intuitive Therapy
We do and have also provided Counselling and Therapy to the following agencies Relate, HM Forces, Local Government Authorities, GP Surgeries, Police, Ambulance, EAP's, NHS and other local providers.
Where are we based
We have our counselling practices on Bond St, just outside Wakefield city centre and close to train and bus terminuses, which is easily reached from Leeds, Huddersfield, Dewsbury, Ossett, and all outlining WF postcodes.
For further information or to make a booking please contact us on:
Tel: 01924 385820 Or mobile Ian 0776 9976620 / Su 0776 9976626
(Answer phone will connect if we are busy with clients, but please leave a message and your contact details, saying if we can leave a message, and we will return your call as soon as possible)
Ian and Su Wallace
We are registered with the following appropriate organisations.
Living in a box
Have you ever thought that everyone you meet wants to put you in a box which then makes them feel more comfortable? Humans can’t stop making judgments about people this is not because they want to judge people but it’s an instinctive reaction which helps us to feel safe. The problem with judging is that we can only use our judgement based on our own past experiences or our understanding of what we have been taught.
This process of labeling, putting people in boxes, is a safety process and is usually totally unfair and indeed wrong. No matter how trained we are as individuals or professionals in accepting of others and not judge them we still find our thoughts judging them, the difference being we might not act on those thought judgments but instead wait until we see them to be the reality or not of that judgmental thought.
In this process of putting people in boxes it also helps us to see which people we would like to associate with, if they wear the same clothes or have the same views then we might feel more connected and possibly more comfortable with them and align ourselves to them, even fighting for them if need be, in a sense it’s a family thing they seem part of our social or cultural family so we defend them or support them.
Systems theory is based on this principle, one or more people aligned together under a similar identity, view or role. We connect with different systems for different reasons and can be connected to many different systems at the same time, similarly to this being in the same box or in the same family. The world revolves around this principle and makes us feel safe, accepted and connected to most aspects of our life.
When we feel isolated and not connected to a system or a box most people will feel uncomfortable and insecure and indeed when moving from one system to another they may feel in limbo or insecure.
Being in a box is not necessarily a problem if you put yourself in that box it’s only a problem if someone else does that for you and you have no choice of being in that particular box.
Try not to act on judgments until you see whether your perception of that judgement is a reality then you will find you’re less anxious and more accepting.
Ian Wallace Relate counsellor in Wakefield