Ian and Sue Wallace Counselling

(Sex Counselling)
Sex is generally an enjoyable and important part of a healthy couple relationship. However, most people encounter sexual problems at some point in their lives. These can be a result of stress, work or family pressures, tiredness, a new baby, illness or other medical problems.

These problems often don’t last long, but for those who are finding that they have recurrent or ongoing difficulties which are causing distress or affecting their relationship, sex therapy can be helpful.

Sex therapy can address problems with loss of desire or managing different levels of desire and also useful for people whose sexual relationship has become stale and unsatisfying, often leading to avoidance and sometimes arguments.

Su works with couples and individuals of any sexual orientation, whether or not they are married, in a civil partnership or living together. Age and declining fitness are not barriers to seeking help. A satisfying sexual relationship is not just for the young, fit and perfectly healthy.

Following detailed assessments which are tailored to identified needs and goals. This is not a ‘one-size-fits-all’ process. Tasks maybe set at each session to be completed in privacy at home. These will then be discussed in the following sessions so that difficulties can be addressed and progress made in manageable steps towards the desired goals.

Sex Therapy is a private and confidential form of help. Your name or other information about you will not be given to anyone else, except if there are ethical or legal requirements to disclose certain information to the relevant authorities, either to prevent serious harm to others or to prevent a miscarriage of justice.

Sexual addiction is a dependence on sexual behaviors that gets more and more difficult to control until it starts affecting the addict's health, work and people close to them. Sex addiction behaviors can include compulsive masturbation and pornography, frequent and inappropriate use of paid sex workers, multiple affairs, stranger sex, fetishes, on-line sex and sometimes sexual offending. The addictive behaviors do not mean that an addict is bad, immoral or abnormal in any way. Behaviors can be changed through the use of specialist professional treatment.

Those with sexually related addictive behaviors and compulsions may have relied on the behaviors for a long time - such as the use of porn or escorts - which become a problem when starting a committed relationship or if they lose their job or contract an STD. An increasingly common trend is that of men between the ages of 20 and 35 who, during their teenage years and adolescence, grew up with the internet explosion and instant access to porn and who are now finding that this 'addiction' is difficult to break away from when they try to start or build long-term relationships.

Steve is a qualified Counsellor, sex addiction therapist and coach. Steve undertook the ATSAC Professional Certificate in Sexual Addiction Treatment and specialises with any addictions from Gambling to sexual activity such as pornography, masturbation, multiple affairs, using paid sex workers, cyber-sex, fetishes and sexual offending. Steve helps addicts to understand the roots of their addiction and supports them in overcoming dependency, making changes and adopting a healthier lifestyle.
After 20+ years working in education and as a training business coach/consultant Steve extended his skills to work more with individuals and couples using systemic, psycho-dynamic, cognitive and behavioural approaches. Steve is registered with the BACP and is a member of ATSAC.

Steve is available for appointments in Wakefield.

More details can be found at Esteem Therapy

All our Counselling is totally confidential and will not be disclosed to others (unless there is a possibility the client would be a danger to themselves, others, domestic violence issues or that Children may be at risk. In this event then disclosure would be limited in the first instance to a Supervisor, a person who supervises the Counsellor, and then discussed with the client).